Identity work goes hand in hand with boundaries training, which is an essential part of learning to love yourself. We all need a sense of safety in our relationships in order to work on change. We call this “Nucleus Review,” patterned after the structure of an actual bee hive. The Queen is at the center. If there is a threat to the hive, the bees swarm to protect the Queen. When you are at your most vulnerable, who surrounds you? Are they the right people?